"What makes a good mother?" The question was rolling around in my head so I did what you do when you don't know something...I googled it.
Here's one list that I found...
1. Treats each child as an individual. A good mother realizes that every child is not the same.
2. A good mother helps their child set out on their own path.
3. A good mother is one that is willing to "listen, and listen, and listen."
4. One of the hardest things a good mother must be willing to do is to show disapproval when she feels that the child has done something wrong, even though by doing so she may risk rejection from her child.
5. A good mother is willing to stand up for her own beliefs. And in doing so earn the right to have and keep her child's respect.
I really like #1 especially as I have seen how night and day Buggers and Bubby are this summer. Their personalities have presented themselves quite loud and proud!! I suspect #4 becomes harder as your kids get older. At the kids ages right now I imagine they think I'm way cool and the best person to be around. I know that time is short as they become older.
I wasn't quite satisfied with that list so again I turn to google in search of the answer....
This list is alittle more what I was looking for...
Characteristics of a Good Parent1. A good listener:
As parents, we sometimes are quick to judge our child's actions or choice of words, that we do not hear their cries for love, attention, or help. We should listen to their feelings, reactions, and opinions. Try to understand their point of view. Look at them when they are talking to show that you are hearing their every word. Put down that book, turn off that television, stop what you are doing and listen!
2. A good example:
We should treat our kids as our equals and not as subordinates. The "do as I say and not as I do" mentality doesn't work. Teach your child how to be responsible, caring, a hard worker, patient, etc by exhibiting those characteristics within yourself. It's not too late for you to do so.
3. Makes time for the family:
It's true that many of us have to work to provide our family with the essentials. In doing so, remember that material things cannot substitute love and quality time from a parent. Your child should know that they are important to you. They should not have to compete against your job. The position and title that you hold and your job cannot be passed on, but the love, the traditions, and time put into your family can be carried throughout generations.
4. Get involved in your child's life.
Respect their interests, do not down play them as mediocre. Share in some of the activities you enjoy. Become familiar with the current trends. It may be a little different than what you're used to, but that doesn't mean you can't learn to at least respect it.
5. Displays unconditional love:
Love your child no matter what. Never allow them to have a doubt in their minds of your love for them. At times they may disappoint you, anger you, or even disrespect you, but even during those times they should know that they are loved by you. No one is perfect, we've all made mistakes and will continue to. Shower those imperfections with love.
As "new" parents we are all on this uncharted path of uncertainty. Uncertain we are doing things right and not adding to that therapy bill they will have when they are adults. Molding our children in the right direction is hard when you don't see the benefits right away. With our little ones being so young you often wonder if you are being a positive influence at all. Especially when they are throwing a temper tantrum or saying "this sucks". All I can truly hope for is that they become God loving, caring, driven adults who don't blame me and their dad for everything.